The other day I was hanging out with one of my homies, talking and also texting both my female and male best friend…. they all were talking about being in love and relationships. ALL of them hit me up saying things about how they ant to be in a relationship, they yearn to be with someone, to give someone the title, and want to cater to another person and tired of being alone. But flipped it on my end of the fence and said that I am “running away” from all these same things that they yearn… My homie doesn’t know why he has a little idea, my female best friend does because she has witnessed a few things as to why & well…my male best friend knows me but can’t understand why I’m running away…
So what did I do…I looked up some shit.. “Why do people run away from love” and this is what I’ve found
-Possibly because low self-esteem makes them doubt that that person really loves them, or that if they do, that love will last. The person who runs away from love does not have the courage to face loss, their ego will not cope with it.
-People go for “no strings attached” because they just want the physical aspect of a relationship, without the emotional baggage that comes along with it.
-Love, for the most part in this country, doesn’t work
Men and women are too different to get along effectively in a relationship.It isn’t a ‘natural’ thing, it’s a cultural thing that can be changed to allow for better relationships. But we’re not interested in strong family structure anymore in this country… We’re more interested in hedonistic flings.. Which admittedly, there’s nothing wrong with a little bit of that. But it’s become excessive.So ‘running’ from love is a pretty good idea in this country, because more often than not, we’re doomed to a bad relationship full of manipulation and abuse. We have every reason in the world to want to avoid that.
…My reasons I’ll never explain because I can’t fully comprehend I know some reasons why being that I’ve acquired some learned behaviors from the male figures in my family rather than the females, I’ve been hurt and BARELY can say that I love my own mom to rather fall in love with a guy, and many other things and issues I can’t explain or choose not to explain but whatever it is….guess I’ll be titled as the “run away” for this moment….Shit I’ve been single for 5 years why not lol *shrug*
